“Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention.” Greg Anderson
I have counseled many people who were feeling down about themselves and their lives. Sometimes we might feel a general sense of something not being right. We’re not satisfied. Something is missing and we don’t know what that “something” is. So we say we’re not happy. The thing is happiness is not a destination, it’s a journey that changes. Happiness has peaks and valleys.
When people say, “I’d be happy if only I could …” (fill in the blank) they don’t understand the journey. Which explains why once they get that “Holy Grail” they were seeking- they finally lose weight, get the so-called perfect job, buy they house they wanted, etc. eventually the glow fades, and they’re back to the state of not being happy. I have encouraged people to embrace the journey. We search as though happiness is some kind of hidden treasure that we have to play detective to discover. Happiness is not playing hide and seek with us either, laughing as it races off. Although to hear us talk we sometimes seem to think that’s what is happening. Happiness is not getting a blessing, but rather it’s recognizing how you are already blessed!
April is Stress Awareness Month. Be too blessed to be stressed. Here are a few tips on getting it together:
1. Get organized and clear up clutter. Nothing makes you feel less in control and overwhelmed as to have a lot of stuff piled up. Things get forgotten and overlooked, which leads to more stress. Take time to get things in order.
2. Learn to say no. A big source of stress is being stretched too thin. It is much better to say no than to take on too much. You may get everything done, but you feel worn out. Or you don’t get everything done and then you get more stress by missing deadline, being late or not giving your best.
3. Get support. Talk out what stresses you with a trusted friend who is level- headed. Sometimes you just need to be able to vent. However, if needed come up with a game plan to deal with your stress.
4. Meditate or find quiet time to do something you enjoy.
5. Get enough sleep.
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